You know, it’s wild. I didn’t realize how much social media was ingrained in my daily routine until I took every single bit of it off of my phone two days ago. So much of my time I’ve spent endlessly scrolling and watching what others were doing, laughing at this or that,
being depressed by a reminder of a failing relationship constantly wishing there was some magical way to fix it, wondering why it just isn’t working (because I “saw” how others’ relationships were smoothly going, at least that’s how it appears from the outside), or worrying about being harassed about which connections with people I choose to keep or not to keep.
It consumed me. Constantly seeing and being aware of all these things has made me feel like s**t. Made me feel as if I wasn’t of value, like I wasn’t succeeding, like everything was falling apart because I’m doing something wrong. Soon as I had that thought, I had to stop myself right then and there. I know I’m not doing anything wrong. I am of immense value and worth. Connection with me is a luxury and not everybody deserves it if it’s going to be abused. That’s how you should value yourself as well.
Social media is so much of an addiction, we don’t realize how bad it is sometimes. A lot of us think we are handling it, but are we really? Yes, social media has its good points, but too many people use it for the wrong thing. Because of this, a lot of us are left feeling like absolute crap and wondering why. It’s because we see these things that make us feel this way on a daily basis. Soon as we wake up, a lot of us are reaching for our phones, to see all the missed notifications that occurred while we were asleep. Some of us also fall asleep with that same phone or device in our hands, unable to let go until our body forces us to sleep (or not, because a lot of us stay awake through the night, being drawn in and unable to escape the allure of the fast paced, addicting, never sleeping, world that is social media).
It’s gotta stop somewhere. As a result of my addiction, like I’ve stated, I’ve been feeling a certain way. I don’t want to feel like this anymore. I’ve been forsaking myself, and because I’ve been forsaking myself, it’s affected a lot of relationships I have with those in my family that I care a lot about. I’ve been praying constantly to God for something to change so I can feel better, but how many of us know that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is insanity? By eliminating this factor (social media), I’ve already seen a significant change. It’s only been two days.
And another thing, none of us are obligated to respond to anyone (with that being said, don’t be rude about it). So if there are people badgering you, that you probably don’t even know, or people that you DO know are trying to start some mess online, all you can do is control your behavior and protect your peace! Don’t feed into that mess, because honestly, people are going to say whatever they want, we know this. That’s why we have blocking capabilities (and if you don’t like blocking people like myself, just don’t reply).
Aside from that aside, there’s nothing wrong with ditching the world of social media, be it for a short time or for forever, there’s nothing wrong with it. You’ll be surprised by how much other stuff you could be doing, rather than just sitting and scrolling your life away.
For me, instead of constantly scrolling and wondering why things aren’t working out in my family and personal life, it’s time to get my face out of my phone and interact like I’ve been needing to this whole time. It’s funny, because my life before social media? I used to interact VERY well. That’s why my connections prior to being submerged in the social media world are still so strong to this day.
By the way, if you’ve been trying to get in contact with me through social media, this is why. It’s not on my phone anymore. Pick up the phone (if you have my number), or write me a letter or something. If it’s urgent enough, you’ll find a way to get in contact with me.
Also, new rule: if you’re spending time with me, you’re only allowed to check your phone for messages (not anything else. Text messages) three (3) times. Because we all have families, friends and most of us have boyfriends or girlfriends that we need to respond to and let them know where we are and that we are okay, but that’s it. If you get on your phone, I will politely get up and leave. There’s no time like the present, and you’ll have plenty of time to be on your phone when you’re alone. Or if it’s to take a picture (and another thing, everything doesn’t need to be posted)
Yeah it’ll be awkward because we lost that important, quality face to face interaction, but I’ll remember that awkward time and it’ll be something else to laugh and smile about.
Okay, I’ve blabbed on for quite some time now. This is just how I feel, you have every right to disagree.